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Bridal Shower

Bridal Shower usally mean Gaaye Holud in Bangladesh culture. Its part of whole marriage process of Bangladeshi Culture.

Bengali wedding means to both Muslim wedding and Hindu wedding. Although Muslim and Hindu wedding have their distinctive religious customs, there are many common cultural rituals in marriages across religion among Bengali people.

Bengali weddings are traditionally in four parts: the bride's Gaaye Holud, the groom's Gaaye Holud, the Biyae and the Bou Bhaat. Bengali Hindu weddings have another part called the "Phoolshajya". These often take place on separate days. The first event in a wedding is an informal one: the groom presents the bride with a ring marking the "Engagement" which has gained most popularity.

Gaaye Holud:

The Gaaye Holud ("yellowing the body") is in preparation for the Beeyea.
For the bride's Gaaye Holud, the groom's family - except the groom himself - goes in procession to the bride's home. They carry with them the bride's wedding outfit, wedding decoration including turmeric paste and henna, sweetmeats and gifts. They also take a large fish cooked and decorated. The procession traditionally centers on the (younger) female relative and friends of bride, and they are traditionally all in matching clothes, mostly orange in color.
The bride is seated on a dais, and the henna is used to decorate the bride's hands and feet with elaborate abstract designs. The turmeric paste is applied by the bride's friends to her body. This is said to soften the skin, but also colors her with the distinctive yellow hue that gives its name to this ceremony.
The sweets are then fed to the bride by all involved, piece by piece. There is, of course, a feast for the guests. The groom's Gaaye Holud comes next, and has the same form as the bridal ceremony.

The actual wedding ceremony or Biyae (Wedding ceremony):

The actual wedding ceremony "Biyae" follows the Gaaye Holud ceremonies. The wedding ceremony is arranged by the bride's family. On the day, the younger members of the bride's family barricade the entrance to the venue, and demands sort of admission charge from the groom in return for allowing him to enter. This is however done in fun, and is not an integral part of the wedding. There is a bargaining between groom and bride's family members on the amount of money of the admission. There is typically much good-natured pushing and shoving involved. Another custom is for the bride's younger siblings, friends and cousins to conceal the groom's shoes for money; to get them back the groom must usually pay off the children. Siblings, friends and cousins also play many practical jokes on the groom.

For a Muslim wedding, the bride and groom are seated separately, and a Kazi (authorized person by the govt. to perform the wedding), accompanied by the parents and a Wakil (witness) from each side formally asks the bride for her consent to the union, and then the groom for his. For a Hindu wedding, a priest makes couple chant mantras from the holy texts that formalizes the following: i) Kanyadaan (giving away of the bride by the father of the bride or a father figure could be an uncle). ii) Saat Phera (The couple walks round the ceremonial fire seven times.)'' The actual formalizing of the wedding and the signing of paperwork is now done before the ceremony for convenience. Usually it is carried out on the morning of the wedding and the feast is at night.

At this time, for Muslim weddings, the amount of the DenMahr is verified, and if all is well, the formal papers are signed, and the couple is seated side by side on a dais. The bride's oorna (headcovering) is draped over both, and a mirror placed in front. The groom is then supposed to say something romantic on what is notionally the first time he has laid eyes on his bride. Every body celebrates the union with a feast.

While seated on the dais, the bride's entourage will make attempts to steal the groom's shoes, which they will return for a ransom. Once the return of the shoes is negotiated, the bride takes tearful leave of her family. Finally, the happy couple makes their way from the venue to the groom's home, where a bridal room has been prepared.

Bou Bhaat (Reception after Marriage):
The reception, also known as Bou-Bhaat (reception) or Walima among the Muslims, is a party given by the groom's family in return for the wedding party. It is typically a much more relaxed affair, with only the second-best wedding outfit being worn.
It's a lot like the wedding, the bride and groom however receive and see off guests and dine together. After the party, the bride and groom go to the bride's family house for two nights. On the second day, the groom's families are invited to the bride's house for a meal, and they leave with the bride and groom. This meal is called "Firani".

Phul Shajya (Bed of flowers):
Also called "Basor raat", this is considered the last stage of the wedding in Hindu tradition; however, in Muslim marriages, this takes place on the night of the wedding. Phul Shajya literally translates into Bed of flowers. For this ceremony the bride wears a lot of floral ornaments and their marriage bed is decorated with flowers by the groom's family. This is the night of consummation.

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